Girl with the parking lot eyes

fatbodypolitics:

codenamecesare:

postcardsfromtheoryland:

pesmenos:

why is there such a stigma against wearing pads? like why is it that people who wear tampons are seen as ‘strong’ and ‘cool’? y’all know that someone people can’t wear them bc it hurts them or that they just don’t like them? stop making it seem like people who wear pads are childish and weak compared to those who wear tampons 

Ok kids buckle up because I know the answer to this question because I am a bitter, vindictive person.

So my first semester of PhD work in a musicology program involved this horrible class with a professor that wanted to suck the life out of all of his students by constantly belittling them. We had to write a short paper each week and present them conference-style and then he would tear us to shreds and do it all over again next week. The purpose of the class was supposedly to have us write papers about materials that hadn’t really been looked at by musicologists yet, and my class had music in advertisements. I was also the only woman in the class and the prof was lowkey sexist so I kept trying to do feminist topics without losing my entire will to live.

So we get to the end of the semester and I am just completely out of fucks, I have one paper left to write and I say fuck it, let’s write about pads and tampons, there must be something there, right? It turns out there IS something to be said there (and this gets back to OP’s question). Early pad and tampon commercials were very similar to each other; basically here’s a product to help you stay clean during your period. But around 1980, suddenly there’s public outcry and panic over tampons due to TSS (Toxic Shock Syndrome). At that point no one really understood how TSS worked but they knew it had to do with tampons. So women freaked out and started switching to pads instead. Now the worst offender, Rely, was taken off the market and other tampon commercials got slapped with little warning signs like “This product could cause TSS” so women bought even fewer tampons. This is when the advertising strategies for the two products changed.

Pad advertisements were now about “cleanliness” and “purity” - they knew you couldn’t get TSS from pads and they were going to emphasize that fact. You’ve got women in white dresses with long hair slowly walking through fields of flowers with pastoral-y flutes in the background. And to fight back, tampon companies take it the complete opposite direction - they ignore TSS entirely and start showing businesswomen running to catch the subway, sporty women riding bikes, basically any sort either high-powered position or active woman showed up in these commercials with contemporary pop-song type music over the top. The clear intention was “yeah we know that these could cause TSS but they’re much better for your mobility, both physically and career-wise.”

I got done giving this paper and I look up to see my four male classmates and one male professor in varying shades of pale-ness and they just all sort of looked at me for a couple minutes without knowing how to respond. It’s one of the proudest moments of my PhD career so far.

Anyway the two products have been advertised basically the same ways ever since then. Now pads are much more comfortable and discreet, and we understand how TSS works and how to avoid it, but the commercial strategies are cemented. If you want to be a strong, on-the-go woman of COURSE you’ll wear a tampon because you don’t want to be one of those sissy ladies in the pastoral field of flowers over in pad-land, do you?

Today I learned that apparently there are people who only use tampons without also using a pad? Like… what, no backup plan? (I use a cup now, but with either tampon or cup, there’s usually some … runoff.)

Seriously. My decision to primarily wear pads was the best ever. Tampons and cups irritate me so wearing pads was not just a choice, but seriously they are so much more comfortable.

antiscorpio:

having dark eyebrows is a privilege 

unaccompaniedursaminor:

skoomapipe:

sexin-my-xbox:

goth-shitposts:

New rule: ur not aloud to be a goth if youre transphobic

Additional rule: being transphobic is not punk rock

also note: transphobia isn’t metal either

You can’t be counter culture while beholden to the toxic prejudices of the dominant culture that’s not how it works.

Get you a freak that

hypnopomicwolf:

Genuinely loves and cares about you and your mental health.

byebyethinspo:

personal shoutout to my body for being my home, even if I don’t appreciate you a lot, you keep me goin’ boo

alwaysbewoke:
“therealwineaunty:
“alwaysbewoke:
“ memoirsofaimperfectblackgirl:
“ anomaly1:
“ old-school-shit:
“Being crazy ain’t ok.
” ”
verbally abusing your boyfriend is not ok. Manipulating your significant other to get what you want is not ok.
”...

alwaysbewoke:

therealwineaunty:

alwaysbewoke:

memoirsofaimperfectblackgirl:

anomaly1:

old-school-shit:

Being crazy ain’t ok.

^^^

verbally abusing your boyfriend is not ok. Manipulating your significant other to get what you want is not ok.

^^^^^^

Hitting on them because “men are stronger and can take it"is not ok.

^^^^^^^^^^^^^